How do i stop being obnoxious

Proactively teach your child skills that will prevent them from exhibiting disruptive behavior. Teach empathy so they can understand how their rude behavior affects those around them. Pause when you're reading books to ask questions about how a character's behavior affected the other people in the story. Teach healthy ways to deal with uncomfortable feelings. Show kids how to cope with anxiety, fear, loneliness, or rejection without acting out.

Kids often misbehave as a means to get attention. Giving your child attention for behaving can prevent them from acting out. Rather than scolding your child for interrupting every time they butt into the conversation, pause when you're talking to a friend and say, "Thank you for playing so quietly. Praising good behavior can encourage your child to keep up the good work. It shows that the best way to get attention is to follow the rules. Ignoring will only work if everyone in the family is able to be on board.

It's important that everyone is on board and able to ignore the obnoxious behavior. If not, you might need to try a different strategy.

If your child is showing off when you have visitors, they may think they are entertaining people. Or, if they are not sure how to invite other children to play with them , they may act out in an attempt to get their peers' attention.

Those loud noises are annoying" or even "Those noises hurt my ears. Say something like, "I know you want the other kids to play with you. But blocking them from running across the bridge is annoying them. Ask them if you can play with them rather than interrupting the game they're already playing. Anxiety can contribute to or lead to depression and other mental health issues as well.

If you have anxiety, you may be concerned or you may have even received criticism that you are becoming a "pain in the neck. However, much of this annoyance comes from misunderstanding or ignorance about anxiety.

Your friends and family need to know that these fears and bodily sensations you are live with are real and not a figment of your imagination.

They need to know that they not easy to control or something to "just get over. It is also important to consider that people do not actually think you are a pain in the neck in most cases. Many of those negative thoughts and fears are a product of your anxious brain.

Especially for someone living with social anxiety, it can feel as if people are paying close attention to you, even judging you as if you're under a magnifying glass when you really have no way of knowing if they even care to pay attention. This is sometimes referred to as a "fishbowl" mentality that you are somehow on display, and everyone is watching. Evidence suggests that most other people are too concerned with what is going on inside themselves to care a whole lot about what you—or anyone else—is doing.

Challenging these types of cognitive distortions is part of what a therapist can help you do to manage anxiety. We'll talk more about that below. On the part of the person living with anxiety, there are many strategies to control or modify symptoms of clinical anxiety.

Learning relaxation skills and trying meditation are helpful methods that can decrease the responses of the sympathetic nervous system. Talk therapies such as CBT cognitive behavioral therapy can help change how you think about the things that can make you anxious and can help change your responses to anxiety like avoidance behaviors so that you can feel less limited and isolated by your symptoms.

There are also medications that can improve feeling overly anxious. Exposure therapy can also be help you face your fears, calm your body, and gain confidence. If you are currently experiencing this type of anxiety, you might consider talking to a professional to see what kind of therapy would be best for you.

If your symptoms are severe enough that you rarely leave the house, being able to connect to a counselor online who can help you could be life changing. Studies show that online counseling can improve your mental health. I once got sick and had to go to a hospital during a trip too.

How is your husband doing now? If the other person wants to know more about your experience, they can ask you to tell them the whole story. Practical jokes and pranks can be funny in the right situation, but they can be annoying or even upsetting for some people. See this guide on how to be funny in a conversation.

Keep your phone in your pocket or in your bag at social events. Turn off your notifications. Most people want to have balanced friendships. This means that both people help each other out in times of need, and both put a similar amount of effort into the relationship. If you repeatedly ask for favors — even if they are small — your friends will start to resent you.

Try not to say things like:. But if you understand the overall point they are making, nitpicking will only annoy them. When you catch yourself being pedantic, apologize. For example, avoid talking with your mouth full, slurping your coffee, whistling or singing loudly, or borrowing something without permission.

Even if a friend talks about the same thing over and over again or keeps making the same mistakes, they might not want your opinion. Some people prefer to vent and want empathy rather than advice. For example:. I feel like people switch off when I start talking about my experiences. Read this guide that explains how to be good at telling stories. If you ask a lot of questions without sharing something about yourself, you might come across as annoying or as an interrogator.

Mix questions with self-disclosure. Enjoyable conversations are usually balanced. You: When I was in school, I had some awesome teachers.

You can find more tips in this guide on how to have a conversation without asking too many questions. There is a tendency, even amongst people who are not obnoxious, to cross your legs or arms when sitting.

However, doing so can make you look closed off, or even mean. Sit and stand in a way that communicates that you are kind and inviting. Stand with your arms uncrossed, sit with your legs uncrossed and knees together, or slightly apart. Keep your hands open and visible. Another way that obnoxious people annoy others is by being very loud in conversation. If you do this as well, work to actively keep your voice down.

You should not resort to whispering, however, but instead maintaining a respectful tone. Part 3. Listen to others. One key aspect to overcoming your obnoxious behavior is to actively, and respectfully listen to others when they are speaking.

Obnoxious people often only listen, respond, or, even worse, to interrupt. While your friend is speaking, keep your thoughts and comments to yourself until they have finished speaking. Think carefully about their words and try to stay focused.

Be honest, but not mean. There is a difference between being truthful and genuine, rather than being downright rude. Consider if what you want to say is truly necessary. If you have a tendency to be rude or insulting, actively work to eradicate that behavior. Choose your words carefully and season any uncomfortable truths with some sweetness.

But I will love you and support you no matter what you decide. Be more positive. Negative talk can be draining for your friends and family, as it is likely affecting them more than you are aware of. This will help you be more grateful and pleasant to be around. Though you may get excited when in conversation with someone, hold your comment to yourself until they are done speaking.

Interrupting someone is a surefire way to put them on guard and make them feel annoyed with you. Avoid giving advice unless asked. Another behavior that is obnoxious is when people inject advice into situations where it was not asked for, or solicited.

Remember that, and allow them to make their own choices.